Understanding the signs of a very toxic relationship with narcissistic people
Sometimes, when living with someone who is abusive or toxic, we tend to come up with reasons as to why they behave that way. At times, we can relate their toxic behavior to stress, or that we did something that aggravated or rubbed them the wrong way. We also attribute their jealous or controlling behavior to love towards us, as this is a reason as to why they don’t let you meet with friends or go out and socialize.
Most narcissist people have very similar behavioral traits that may include, but not limited to: gaslighting, isolation, lack of respect, controlling attitudes, financial dictatorship and so much more. Being in this kind of relationship may not appear troubling to you, but looking from the outside in can be very toxic.
Here are some signs that you are in a toxic relationship:
1. They are always trying to isolate you by claiming that your friends are bad influences
If someone is trying to isolate you from your friends and calling them bad influences, it could be a sign of controlling behavior or manipulation. This kind of behavior is often seen in abusive relationships, where the abuser tries to cut off the victim’s support system and make them dependent on them.
By isolating you from your friends, the person may be trying to gain control over you and limit your access to people who could provide you with different perspectives, emotional support, or advice. By calling your friends “bad influences,” they may be trying to make you doubt your friendships and make you feel like you need to rely on them instead.
It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. If someone is trying to isolate you from your friends or control your relationships, it may be a red flag. It’s important to speak up and seek help if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe in a relationship.
2. They start looking at your food log and control what you can eat or not eat
If someone is trying to control what you eat or not eat, it could be a sign of controlling behavior, manipulation, or an eating disorder.
Controlling behavior and manipulation can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship, where the person is trying to exert power and control over you. This behavior may be driven by their own insecurities or a desire to feel superior. They may try to control what you eat in an attempt to make you feel dependent on them or to limit your autonomy.
It’s important to remember that everyone has the right to make their own choices about food and their body. If someone is trying to control what you eat or not eat, it’s important to recognize that this behavior is not acceptable and may be harmful to your physical and mental health. It may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional to help you address the situation.
3. All of your thoughts and dreams are questioned, just like when being a young teenager
If someone is trying to control your thoughts and dreams, questioning you, and treating you like a teenager, it could be a sign of controlling behavior and a lack of respect for your autonomy.
This behavior is often seen in unhealthy relationships, where one person tries to exert power and control over the other. By trying to control your thoughts and dreams, the person may be trying to limit your ability to think for yourself and make your own decisions. By treating you like a teenager, they may be trying to infantilize you and make you feel like you are not capable of making your own choices.
It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. If someone is trying to control your thoughts and dreams or treating you like a teenager, it’s important to speak up and set boundaries. Let the person know that you do not appreciate their behavior and that you have the right to think for yourself and make your own decisions. Be clear and assertive about your boundaries, and do not let the person guilt-trip or manipulate you into changing your mind. If the behavior continues despite your boundaries, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship for your own well-being.
4. They always want you to invest most of the time with them in the name of love
If someone wants to be with you all the time, is clingy, and not letting you go out with friends, it could be a sign of controlling behavior and a lack of respect for your boundaries and independence.
This behavior is often seen in unhealthy relationships, where one person tries to exert power and control over the other. By wanting to be with you all the time and not letting you go out with friends, the person may be trying to limit your social interactions and make you dependent on them for your social needs. They may also be trying to isolate you from your support system, making it harder for you to leave the relationship.
It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. If someone is being clingy and not letting you go out with friends, it’s important to speak up and set boundaries. Let the person know that you appreciate their interest in spending time with you but also need your space and independence. Be clear and assertive about your boundaries, and do not let the person guilt-trip or manipulate you into changing your mind.
If the behavior continues despite your boundaries, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship for your own well-being. Remember that you have the right to make your own choices and spend time with the people you care about.
5. Financial dictatorship: Even when you are the breadwinner
If someone tries to control your spending and acts as a financial dictator, it could be a sign of controlling behavior and a lack of respect for your autonomy.
Controlling behavior is often seen in unhealthy relationships, where one person tries to exert power and control over the other. By trying to control your spending, the person may be trying to limit your financial independence and make you dependent on them for your financial needs. They may also be trying to limit your ability to make your own choices and prioritize your own needs.
It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. If someone is trying to control your spending, it’s important to speak up and set boundaries. Let the person know that you appreciate their concern but also need the ability to make your own choices and prioritize your own needs. Be clear and assertive about your boundaries, and do not let the person guilt-trip or manipulate you into changing your mind.
If the behavior continues despite your boundaries, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship for your own well-being. Remember that you have the right to make your own financial choices and prioritize your own needs. If necessary, seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or financial professional to help you address the situation.
6. Condescending attitude towards you using gaslighting strategies
If someone has a condescending attitude towards you and gaslights you, it could be a sign of emotional abuse and manipulation.
Condescending behavior involves speaking down to someone and treating them as if they are inferior or incompetent. Gaslighting involves manipulating someone’s perception of reality and making them doubt their own thoughts, feelings, and memories.
Together, these behaviors can be a form of emotional abuse, where the person is trying to exert power and control over you. By speaking down to you and making you doubt your own thoughts and feelings, the person may be trying to undermine your self-confidence and make you more dependent on them for validation and support.
It’s important to remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and mutual support. If someone has a condescending attitude towards you and gaslights you, it’s important to recognize that this behavior is not acceptable and may be harmful to your mental health. It’s important to speak up and set boundaries. Let the person know that you do not appreciate their behavior and that it is not acceptable. Be clear and assertive about your boundaries, and do not let the person guilt-trip or manipulate you into changing your mind.
So here it is, ladies and gentlemen. the many different signs that you may or someone close you know be in a toxic and controlling relationship. Always seek support when you feel their behavior is going out of hand. Remember that you are still in control but longer you stay, and more power you award them. Detach yourself from that situation at all cost as it may cost you long term.
Best of luck
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