How long does it take to figure out I am dating a gold digger? I want to avoid being taken advantage of want to be more cautious.
First, for some who do not know what the definition of “Gold Diggers” is, let’s tackle that first. Now, it is not gender specific as we have seen men take advantage of wealthy women by promising them the world but to only ended up with being completely financially ruined in addition to a couple of STDs.
Let’s get to the meat and bone of the topic. So what are gold diggers? Just like its term, they are individuals who enter into relationships for the sole purpose of gaining financial benefits from whoever they date. Extensive research has been conducted on the topic of gold diggers in relationships, revealing some interesting findings.
One study found that individuals who scored high on a measure of materialism were more likely to engage in gold digging behaviors. This suggests that those who place a high value on material possessions and financial gain may be more likely to seek out partners who can provide those things.
Another study found that gold diggers tend to be more narcissistic and have lower levels of empathy. This may explain why they are willing to exploit their partners for financial gain, as they may not have the ability to empathize with their partner’s feelings or see the relationship as anything more than a means to an end.
Research has also shown that men and women can both be gold diggers, though the motivations may differ. For women, financial stability and security may be more important, while men may be motivated by the status and prestige that comes with being with a wealthy partner.
It’s important to note that not all individuals who are attracted to partners with financial stability or success are gold diggers. However, it’s important to be aware of the signs of gold digging behavior, such as a partner who is only interested in your financial status or seems to have a sense of entitlement to your money.
If you pay attention to social media, we see more and more staged videos on Tiktok about Gold diggers, which are horrible actors staging the scene, nevertheless, the core message is quite obvious. We primarily see the woman on the video being the one focusing on the material possession of the man she is meeting on a date. As said previously, the acting is HORRIBLE but at times ironic as the scene depicts the exact behaviors of gold diggers.
So what to do if you are noticing some of the atypical behaviors of a gold digger?
If you suspect that you are in a relationship with a gold digger, it is important to take steps to protect yourself and your finances. Here are some steps you can take:
- Have an open and honest conversation with your partner: If you suspect that your partner is a gold digger, have a candid conversation about your concerns. Let them know that you are uncomfortable with their behavior and that you expect more from your relationship.
- Set clear boundaries: Make it clear to your partner what you are and are not willing to do financially. For example, you may be comfortable paying for dinner, but not paying for your partner’s rent or bills.
- Protect your finances: Keep your finances separate from your partner’s and avoid giving them access to your bank accounts or credit cards. Be wary of any requests for money or financial assistance.
- Consider ending the relationship: If your partner is unwilling to change their behavior or continues to pressure you for financial support, it may be time to end the relationship. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who values you for who you are, not just for your financial status.
In any case, it is important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being. Seek support from friends and family, and consider speaking with a someone who have experienced the same and may assist you in paying attention to the type of behaviors they all share in common.
Oh yes, one more thing. Run as far as possible on the opposite direction and cut all ties with that person. They are a money pit and will constantly expect you to pay for everything they want to do, including “keeping up with their Jones’s “
